Have you ever had someone talk about you? You know say things that are not true, to other people. I have, many times, still happens. People always ask me, why don’t you do anything about it? Why don’t you fight back?
I always say, coming up in ranks (belts), I learned a very important lesson. “What someone is saying about you behind your back, is truly what they believe of themselves”.
Sound confusing? Let me explain. People will always talk bad about someone, for multiple reasons. Whatever they say, is usually what they are doing themselves.
Someone calls you a liar... reality, they are the liar themselves.
Someone calls you a thief... reality, they are the thief themselves.
Speaking negatively about someone, you will speak what you know, what you live. You will be an expert on the subject, (your chosen words of describing another human being) because you do those things yourself.
My other reason for not reacting to someone talking about me behind my back, with lies.
It’s not true. Why would I fight against something that is not true? Why would I put so much energy into someone’s lies? Why should I care about what someone, who doesn’t mean anything to me, says?
Grant it, it’s not easy, standing your silent ground. I will guarantee, it’s worth it! You see the truth will always find it’s way into everything, lies, stories, embellishments. Having trust in the truth, is one of the hardest things anyone can do.
People you have known for a lifetime, will believe those lies. When the truth surfaces, they will act like, oh well, I didn’t know.
Accept people for who they are & forgive. Forgiveness is a tool to let you win. Once you forgive them, they have no part of you anymore.
Again I am not saying this is easy, also forgiving someone doesn’t mean you have to be their friend or even talk to them. Forgive them so you can concentrate on you, building your life better.
Martial Arts has given me this ability & strength, to be able to use these tools against my verbal enemies, and succeed.
Stop by our karate club & learn how to use Martial Arts against the verbal bully.